The Challenge With Chastity

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In our house, we have no real tv. As a result, my kids have taken to watching various YouTube channels. Some are silly, like FailArmy. Some are annoying, like all the Minecraft reaction channels. Some are mildly amusing, like iisuperwomanii.

Now I personally prefer binge watching 9 seasons of Supernatural on Netflix inside of two weeks, but that is often thwarted by the YouTube stuff. Recently, my eldest daughter was going through the superwoman channel and landed on a video where the host, Lilly Singh, answered questions from fans.*

I normally cringe at this stuff because the questions tend to be sexual in nature, or just wholly inappropriate for my 12 year old to hear. However, I have to give credit to Ms. Singh for 1) choosing questions that were both funny and appropriate, and 2) answering them honestly.

One of the questions was truly intriguing. Ms. Singh was asked…

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Your Logic is Flawed

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All I see on Facebook lately is “Colorado was STOLEN!” “Cruz is an establishment sellout!” and the further I investigate these claims, the more I facepalm.

I know I’m not convincing anyone of anything here, so I’m merely going to point out why your logic is flawed if you believe these things. I understand you all have your preferred sites that deliver news in exactly the tone you wish to hear, so I’m under no illusions that my post will shake the foundations of your beliefs. This is simply cathartic for me.

First, let’s start with your news sources, shall we? I keep hearing how The Media is evil and in the tank for The Democrats or The Establishment Republicans (it changes depending on who is critical of The Angry Cheeto – which reminds me of the evil Cheese Curls in Veggie Tales, right down to the lips). I see a…

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Ebola, A Nurse’s Perspective

It is essentially common sense that this virus is easily contractible via bodily fluids given that’s precisely how many other viruses are contracted. The thing about this virus is that it’s much deadlier than the flu and yet we have a failure of leadership in dealing with it.

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So a few months ago the country was enthralled with the idea of a few patients, infected with the Ebola virus, coming to the United States. Up until this point, we had been safe from Ebola due to the fact that bats can’t fly over the Atlantic. Some people were completely indifferent, while others had seen Outbreak one too many times. Most were a healthy mix, somewhere in between, but what bothered me the most was both the lack of education and the poor information that was spreading more virulently than the virus could ever hope to.

First, I want to stress that I am a nurse, not a virologist, and hopefully throughout my post you will see that I am not pretending to be one. I have a Bachelor’s in Nursing and am currently a graduate student. I have worked extensively with Infectious Disease Specialists. I have been exposed…

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Real Talk About Culture, The Female Vote, and Matt Walsh

I’ve heard a lot of opinions over the last few days concerning Matt Walsh and culture, but one thing has stuck with me that I feel needs to be addressed, and I intend to do that in short here and now so that I can return to enjoying my last day of vacation. 

The point that I saw, which was brought up in a Facebook thread, was that Matt writes primarily for a female audience and that if we (the right) are somehow overlooking this audience, then maybe we should pay a little attention to what this asshole is saying about culture (because he couldn’t possibly have anything else to teach us, amiright?).

To be quite blunt, yes, you are alienating women. It is your own fault. Matt is reaching this demographic in a way in which you scoff at, and instead of listening you simply try to marginalize him…and along with him, his following. The following that you, despite your best efforts, cannot seem to swing to your side in elections. That following. 

Let me get straight to the point, because I have a room full of eager girls who are chomping at the bit to go to the beach right now…

Matt addresses the broader culture. He speaks to the importance of family, Christian values, and the need to respect each other. It strikes at the heart. It also strikes at the problems (and solutions) of culture, whether it be pop culture or any other kind you may wish to “engage.” His delivery may leave something to be desired, but his message is sound. I won’t rant, again, about how ridiculous I think attacking a person over delivery is when you can’t refute their point, because I’ve done that countless times. The fact is that culture is like a long and winding river. We each experience it in different ways in our lives, we each engage it differently. Some approach it with more enthusiasm and excitement. Some with trepidation. But the river has a genesis: a spring from which everything else flows; the foundation of society- namely, the family. 

So if one more person tries to tell me that Matt Walsh is not interested in engaging the culture, I will be forced to slam your head into the nearest wall. Because UGH. That’s literally what he does every single frickin day. Just because he doesn’t employ your method, or even validate your method, doesn’t mean that he isn’t on the front lines of the culture wars. So stop already. It makes you look petty. 

Which brings me back to the point of how we are losing women and Matt is not…

To be perfectly honest with you, I’m disgusted with people on the right. I have lost respect for many of you. The reason is that the “big tent” is more of a frat house than a circus. Seriously. 

You are so freaking concerned with not being seen as “stuffed shirts”, prudes, “out of touch”, etc, that you have become as bad as liberals in your behavior. You are now the enemy. You are contributing to the cultural decay.

All you “conservative” (I use that term loosely) men, in your efforts to appear “hip” and cool and ALPHA (oh my GAWD how I hate that word now), you have become pre-pubescent boys. You have zero respect for women. You treat us like toys to be played with… until, of course, you need to reach out to women for votes. Just ease off your butthurt for a moment and think about it… you’re constantly, incessantly, obsessively, talking about BEWBS. OMG BOOBS. They’re so amazing and wonderful and SHOW ME YOURS, PLEASE, BECAUSE I’M AN ALPHA MALE RAAWWWRR!! 

Child, please. A man doesn’t advertise his masculinity by objectifying women, he does so by uplifting them. Guess who’s been uplifting women? If you guessed Matt Walsh, you’re right! He’s always praising his wife, his daughters, talking about how wonderful and talented and beautiful they are and how he wishes to shelter them from all the bad things in the world. THAT message speaks to women. The “I’m an alpha and I like boobs and bacon and hey let’s hook up” message? Not so much. 

As for you “women” (yeah, loosely) who feed into that “alpha” bullshit and bathe in the validation of having internet Romeos tell you how hawt you are? Yeah, you act like teenage girls. Think, for a moment, how difficult a relationship is in our current society. Think about what feminism has done to degrade women and turn us into sex fiends who want/need casual and meaningless sex. You are now a part of that. Men ask to see your tits (most of the time, they don’t even have to ask) and you oblige. And the panting masses drool and breathe close to their screens because APPARENTLY they’ve never seen a rack before. Yet they’re alphas. *eyeroll* And you alienate other women because really who wants their man drooling over you?? You know how hard a relationship can be, yet you continue to throw out roadblocks in everyone else’s. Why? Well, because being flattered feels good. So why not, right? After all, if she can’t keep her man… blah blah blah. Yet if it were your man who was having his ego stroked by random women because he’s an alpha and you’re just a jealous bitch.. well, the shoe doesn’t fit so well when you’re the one wearing it. 

So the short answer is yes, unequivocally, we do have a problem when it comes to women and how they vote on the right. But maybe, just maybe, if women felt they were valued and respected then we wouldn’t. And I get it, you want to undo the damage that liberal policies have done to turn men into whimpering pussies…

But how about instead of encouraging them to act like over-sexed frat boys we encourage them to act like men of good character? Which means, ladies, that you need to behave as ladies and exhibit some good character of your own. Respect yourselves and each other, build one another up with encouragement, keep each other in check with constructive criticism, and instead of living a life divorced from every personal belief you hold sacred, maybe start showing some fruits of your faith in your political walk as well. 

After all, if you want to change the cultural landscape, you’re going to have to stop polluting it. 

 

Jesus didn’t care about being nice or tolerant, and neither should you

The Matt Walsh Blog

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There is no shortage of heresies these days.

If you want to adopt some blasphemous, perverted, fun house mirror reflection of Christianity, you will find a veritable buffet of options. You can sift through all the variants and build your own little pet version of the Faith. It’s Ice Cream Social Christianity: make your own sundae! (Or Sunday, as it were.)

And, of all the heretical choices, probably the most common — and possibly the most damaging — is what I’ve come to call the Nice Doctrine.

The propagators of the Nice Doctrine can be seen and heard from anytime any Christian takes any bold stance on any cultural issue, or uses harsh language of any kind, or condemns any sinful act, or fights against evil with any force or conviction at all. As soon as he or she stands and says ‘This is wrong, and I will not compromise,’…

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This One’s for my Homies

As you well know if you follow this blog, I’ve been inactive for a few months. I hit a major rut and lost my inspiration. I don’t know why I felt so completely incapable of putting together a reasonably coherent post; perhaps a perfect storm of ADD, doubt, and self-criticism kept me literarily mute. (Yes, I just made that word up.) I was overwhelmed by the amount of news assaulting my mind and demanding my notice. I couldn’t focus enough on anything else to bother with an attempt.
Truth be told, I had plenty to say. I didn’t crawl into a hole and stop observing the world, but I’d gotten comfortable with pithy responses and began to doubt I could formulate a more well-thought out response than would fill a sentence or two. I would create a draft, do a bit of research, and then tell myself that this was all old news anyway and no one would care anymore.
That’s why, when prompted by friends and followers, I decided to grit my teeth and get back up on the blog-horse (to amalgamate some metaphors) and just break through the writer’s block by force of will.
I have no illusions that this will result in any devastatingly spectacular prose. For now it is enough to simply string words together and form sentences that result in a conclusive idea.
I know that the people who have encouraged me to return to this form of media and expression aren’t demanding Pulitzer-prize winning posts from me… yet, anyway. They simply missed, for some reason known only to themselves, my views on life, politics, spirituality, or any of the other topics that I sometimes opine on. Their encouragement is why I’m back in the writer’s chair (or bed, as it were).
So to those dear folk; the friends, followers, and fellow writers; thank you.
Thank you for nudging and prodding me back into using the written word to share my thoughts and experiences. Thank you for not giving up on me. Thank you for believing me capable of this when I doubted myself.
This one’s for you, my homies. I pour out these words on the fertile ground of the internet. Peace. 😉

Remembering a Legend

It’s been a hard year for the conservative movement. One year ago today we lost Breitbart. Then we witnessed the most radical left-wing president in our country’s history get re-elected. We’ve witnessed the grief and division of our friends and mentors and it has hurt us. It has hurt us all.

We found ourselves adrift after the sudden loss of our captain, that lion of liberty, Andrew Breitbart. I felt his loss even though I’m newly come to this world of blogging and citizen journalism. I know others mourn him more deeply than I do.

Long before I ever tweeted or blogged a single thought, I was hooked on the Bigs. I read Big Journalism obsessively. I don’t think it would ever have occurred to me to take up the torch of activism without people like Breitbart, their inspiration and encouragement. For me, it started with hearing that lone voice speaking truth. Once truth takes hold of your mind, you can’t ignore it. I had to share – information, resources, ideas. It became my passion.

I’ve seen my own small efforts realize results. When I would share articles and information it began to spark conversation and debate. Even here, where conservative ideals reign there was anger over speaking truth plainly. Friends would tell me privately, “I completely agree with you. Thank you for being brave enough to say something,” and I would thank them and tell them it was enough to know that someone was listening. With each step towards activism I gained confidence, but it wasn’t until others found their voice that I felt as if I’d accomplished something.

I’ve witnessed the silent majority grow tired of getting brow-beaten with the politically correct government approved messaging. I’ve seen them begin their own campaigns for truth, heard them speak out against misinformation. Sometimes all it takes is knowing you aren’t alone.

Today I remember Andrew Breitbart in my own small way. My intent is not to increase your grief or leave you in tears over the loss of such a great man. What I want to do is honor his work and that spark of passion and genius in him that ignited a movement.

So here’s to Big thinking,

To reaching millions through conservative radio programs,

To bringing down a President with just a blue dress,

To hijacking press conferences,

To exposing the corruption of ACORN,

To the peaceful protest of the TEA party,

To bullying the bullies of occupy.

Here’s to the spark that lit a fire in all of us, may we hold the torch of liberty high and light other fires along our way.

R.I.P. Andrew